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Spiritual Inspirations from Energy
22nd July is World Energy Day ⚡. Hence today, let’s take some spiritual inspirations from the various energies!
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Letting go of the Past
Sometimes, memories of the past pull our happiness down. Hence, it’s important to protect ourselves from influence of the past.
This becomes very easy, by creating thoughts like:
Also, having good experiences in meditation is another powerful technique of merging unpleasant memories of the past..
Hence as is said, the past is history but the present is a gift. Thus, let’s put a full stop to the past, & create good thoughts & feelings in the present, to enjoy a most illustrious present & future!
Best of luck!
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Spiritual Inspirations from Chess | Happy International Chess Day
20th July is International Chess Day. Hence today, let’s take some wonderful spiritual inspirations from chess!
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The Art of Anger Management (How to control Anger)
A version of this article ‘The Art of Anger Management (How to control Anger)’ was published in ‘The World Renewal’ magazine (Dec 16 issue)
Everyone of us know the negative effects of anger, in terms of it’s impact on the:
However still, conquering anger (i.e., anger management) seems a big challenge.
Hence, let us attempt to understand how anger works, and how to conquer it (i.e., anger management!)
Anger
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Irritation
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Influence
The seed of anger is Irritation. If you check subtly, an outburst of anger always starts with Irritation (or multiple times irritation)
And the main reason of Irritation is trying to control something which is not in our control. Situations and people are largely beyond our control.
And why do we try to control situations and people? Because sometimes, they tend to have a negative influence on us.
Hence, the key to conquering anger (i.e., anger management) is to protect oneself from negative influence.
The main ways to remain safe from outside influence are:
Whatever we think about more, we become exposed to it’s influence. Hence, the more our thoughts are tuned with the inside world, the more protected we are from influence of the outside world.
Hence if we think more about:
then we are more prone to outside influence. This is the Extroversion stage.
The more we think about:
then we are more protected from outside influence. This is the introversion stage, or soul conscious stage.
Hence, the more we think of the person creating negative energy, the more we become influenced, and hence we too start getting angry. Conversely, the more we are introverted & close to the self, the less influenced we are & hence stable in our original state, thus not creating the same negative energy.
Introversion can also refer to the practice of keeping attention on our thoughts.
Those who are spiritually weak become easily influenced. Hence, becoming more powerful is another technique to remain safe from influence. This is possible by a good connection with God, the Ocean of Power, the One with all powers.
Also, the more we remain in the powerful influence of God, who is the source of all attainments, automatically the influence of everything else reduces.
The more soul conscious our vision / attitude is, then however strong the negative energy sent by the other person may be, we are able to remain protected.
It just means constantly seeing the other person as a soul and creating associated thoughts like.
This not only acts as a powerful shield of protection for the self, but also sends powerful positive energy to the other soul, which helps him/her to remain stable & gives him/her the power to transform.
These days, all souls have both specialities and weaknesses. Hence, God asks us to wear the spectacles of specialities ie to look at others’ specialities rather than their weaknesses. The more we have the specialties of others in our awareness, the less influenced we are by any negative energy created by that soul.
Hence, it’s a very good practice to note down, for each soul at home or work whom we come into regular contact with, 2-3 specialities of that soul. Then, try to keep that speciality in your awareness when interacting with him. This acts as a powerful tool of protection for the self.
It’s important to understand that the person getting angry is in greater pain than the one on whom he’s getting angry. The other person can protect himself, but the one getting angry cannot escape the ill-effects of the anger being created inside him. This awareness generates mercy for the soul, which provides a natural protection for the self.
It’s also important to understand that the person getting angry is not getting angry on us, but is actually just reflecting his inner disturbed state of mind. Hence, not to take the outburst personally on oneself, but to understand the position of the person. This again creates mercy.
While protection from influence is the key technique to conquer anger (ie anger management), there are also some more techniques which we can use to overcome other subtle aspects of anger.
Before giving an advice, recommendation or suggestion to anyone, just check “What if the other person doesn’t do what I say? Will I get disturbed?” If no, go ahead. Else talk with and convince yourself that the other person is also right from his perspective, and only then proceed to give the advice. In this way, one can overcome control.
While anger is generally directed at other people, guilt is a form of anger directed at oneself. Guilt generally occurs due to a mistake done by the self.
To overcome guilt, it is important to understand that the more we remain in guilt, the more soul power is drained. And it’s this power we require to transform, to ensure that the mistake made is not repeated. Hence, when in guilt, just ask yourself “Do I wish to repeat the same mistake again?” If no, I can’t afford to remain in guilt!
To ensure that the old sanskar of anger doesn’t pop up again, it’s very important to be aware of the smaller aspects of anger, which are as follows:
Note that protecting oneself from the above three aspects corresponds to God’s elevated direction to “Speak Less, Speak Sweetly and Speak Softly” respectively!
The fact remains that one of the major reasons why we create anger (or it’s smaller aspects as described above) is because we still subtly believe that “Anger is needed to get work done” or ”Anger is needed to change other people”. Hence, we need to check and change this wrong belief system once and for all.
This could be done by realising that negative energy can never be used to produce a positive solution. While in the immediate short term, it may seem that people behave, and work gets done the way we want. But this effect very quickly fades away. In fact, people not only tend to lose respect on the one who frequently gets angry, but they also start ignoring or find ways to protect themselves from the influence of this anger. Hence, anger ultimately leads to no benefit and only creates a lot of damage to the soul getting angry.
In fact, when there is love & respect, where we give priority to people over work, people will want to work for you rather than have to work for you, ultimately leading to much greater work efficiency. Because when the inner state of mind is stable & happy, the external work done automatically becomes better!
Om Shanti!
Thanks for reading this article on ‘The Art of Anger Management (How to control Anger)’!
Let’s also learn how to overcome Expectations, Desires, Comparison, Competition, Hurry, Hurt, Jealousy, Guilt, Addictions, Anger, Greed & Fear
You might also like to read further on the virtues of peace, happiness, gratitude, contentment, purity, innocence, smiling face, cheerfulness, sweetness, positivity, self respect, giving, appreciation, looking at virtues, co-operation, having good wishes, forgiveness, mercy & non-violence!
Overcoming Hurry
The main reason for hurry is we feel ‘I don’t have time’. While it’s true we’ve many responsibilities to fulfil today, it just means we need to do our actions fast. But, the only slight mistake we do is, we also let our thoughts run too fast.
This actually reduces efficiency, since a fast mind:
On the other hand, peace enhances efficiency, since:
Hence, this simple realization helps us easily switch from hurry to peace!
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Spiritual Inspirations from Judges, Courts & Lawyers | Speech on International Justice Day
17th July is World Day for International Justice, or International Justice Day. Hence today, let’s take some spiritual inspirations from judges, courts & lawyers!
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Spiritual Inspirations from Emoji, Emoticons, Smiley | Happy World Emoji Day quotes
17th July is World Emoji Day i.e., emoticons or smileys day… Hence today, let’s take some wonderful spiritual inspirations from emoji!
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Spiritual Youth Empowerment | Speech on World Youth Skills Day
15th July is World Youth Skills Day, & 12th August is International Youth Day. Hence today, let’s discuss some wonderful points on spiritual youth empowerment!
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Spiritual Inspirations from Ice Cream | Wish you a very cool Ice Cream Day | National Ice cream Day quotes
The 3rd Sunday of July is Ice Cream Day. Hence today, let’s take some wonderful spiritual inspirations from Ice Cream! 🍦🍧🍨
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Overcoming Guilt (Feeling Guilty)
Guilt doesn’t allow us to remain happy. Hence, it’s important to overcome guilt, which becomes very easy with the following simple understanding:
The more we remain in guilt, the more soul power gets drained. And it’s exactly this power which we need to ensure the mistake made is not repeated again.
Hence whenever in guilt, just ask yourself the question “Do I wish to repeat this mistake again?”. If no, I can’t afford to remain in guilt!
Best Wishes!
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